Before everyone goes into a panic I really need to say this is not about me. This is actually about a girlfriend of mine who has unfortunately become tangled up with the wrong guy.
Recently I was cruising backpage for my own amusement because I know that I will "run into" someone I know and I can have a little chuckle to myself about it. No harm no foul, I'm totally okay with being an escort if that's the choice you make. Or I thought I was, until I ran into a photo of someone I really care about, an actual friend of mine. As I'm sitting in bed, something similar to being the hulk happens, no I don't turn big and red and smash things but I do lose a few social graces and feel that I can do whatever I want when I'm red. So red came out, and I sent my girlfriend a text saying "Hey what's up with this ad on back page" Thinking she would have the decency to tell me the truth. I was a little wrong. She replied with "what? lol" At which point I felt is was necessary to send her a screen shot. I FUCKING HATE BEING LIED TO. After that she goes on to say it was a mistake. I gave her the benefit of the doubt...until this weekend.
At which point a friend of ours asked me to talk to her. Apparently this all came about becuase she met a "Success Specialist" also known as a pimp. Who she is apparently in love with. FUCK ME RUNNING I could have sworn she was smarter than that.
I need to talk to her about this I just don't know how yet.
Good luck, this will be a very difficult conversation. You are a good friend to breach this matter.
ReplyDeleteHow does a person approach something like this? Obviously, if it is a valued friendship, the issue must be breached.
One of my concerns would be that I would lose the friend, that she would resent me, distance herself from me.
That, I guess, would be her prerogative. I've had it happen over things I've had to say to friends. It has saddened me that I have lost the friendships, but I don't regret it because I couldn't live with myself had I not done it.
As my gran'pappy used to say, 'Some people have to sleep knowing what they did...I GET to sleep knowing what I did.'
dld
Be gentle but firm. Timing is everything...
ReplyDeleteHey sista, I am new to this game, wondering if we work in the same place. I will look for your red hair tomorrow night. Thanks for keeping up this blog, as it is nice to hear about other women's experiences without asking because it can come off weird or trite.
ReplyDeleteOh, looks like I work in a more northerly club than you.
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